Wednesday, June 30, 2010


从朋友的profile那儿看到好美好美的照片,可是又不想写在ooh carol,因为会惊动全世界!keke,所以,让我放在这里好吗?*点头* haha~^^

原来啊,澳洲的天空是那么美而多云的。很美kan?*点头* 哈哈哈

如果我说今天我好高兴,是因为我在折衣服时,发现我自己吃得饱,睡得好,没烦恼,有家归,父母在,很安心,我的嘴角上扬了。我可不可以时时刻刻都有这祥和的心啊?hehe~

Matrix

Recently I am sooo into Matrix. The storyline is really interesting, and I wouldn't know the bunch of meanings behind some seemingly plain scene if not I search it online. So, it happened that I spend my whole night exploring the meanings of the fabulous matrix in the movie and it is really interesting!Some say that it is related to christianity's genesis; Some said the directors, Brothers Warswoski, relate it to the Buddhism and Mathematics concept. But then for me, it is still cannot be considered as a Buddhist film; Although the main characters in the movie claim that they're awake from the matrix, what they really mean is mainly for their physical circumstances but not for the minds. Although they talked about the freedom of mind, they still believe that there is a thing called soul which should be freed from matrix. This is contradictory to the concept in Buddhism.

However,there is some scenes in the movie which makes the audience feels the same ( 有共鸣)。 Just like sometimes in life we will question: Is it that kind of life we can only have? Is it another path we can go? And in deeper sense we'll try to find out what life really means. Why are we here. what is the truth behind life? We are searching for answer we can be satisfied with. Just like neo. His searching for ever leads him to the answer :The matrix. My searching leads me to Buddhism.

And in Matrix one there is another scene, a kid who bends the spoon. When Neo is amazed by what he did, he said, " You must know, there is no spoon." This complies to What buddhism text has told us, how the world is formed and it keeps changing by merely combining and parting. There is no spoon, and everytime we take the things around us so real.

And then Neo finds out the truth that even the city of Zion where he believes the humans gain the real freedom, is also another form of matrix created by the machines. The architect told him, the failure of the matrix is because a lack of choice. However, he said, 99% of them will choose to live in the virtual world of matrix and only a minority will question their existence and reject matrix. This is so true oh. People are so cling to and indulged in their pursuing of desire and five senses that even though they are shown the noble path which can lead to nirvana, they may not want to accept the truth and still wish to live in a comfortable life ahead, experiencing life and death again and again.

Of course we're not as said in the movie, controlled by the sentient machines living in a world of matrix. Haha. However pathetically we stay in more or less the same matrix created by ourselves. We are lucky, as in the end of our searching we found Buddhism. This is all dependent on our own effort, whether we really want to wake up from the illusions we are living in. When Buddha said it is possible, by one's own effort, one is possible to attain nirvana. No one can help me to do this unless by myself.

Monday, June 28, 2010

体会

直到自己亲自办聚会,才发现即使是一个小聚会,
就是能够有这么多的人数,就是我们几个而不是其他的,
就都能配合大会的时间,
这都是要许多许多的因缘凑合的。少了一个,我们都不会在这个时间遇见彼此了。
所以,无论生活中在什么情况遇见了谁,都是值得感恩的。
如果觉得不圆满,是自己太执取圆满了。
毕竟世间万物都是无常,无我的,我们若能强求它们以自己的想法走,便不是佛陀所说的真理了。
所以,无论计划多么完美,总有意外的时候;若能顺应所限的因缘走,心便会更自在。
若要强求,便是佛所说的求不得苦了。
佛说的苦谛中的八苦,无一不实实在在地在我们生活中发生啊。

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

23.6.2010

昨天跟公公婆婆去吃午餐回来,便呼拉躺在沙发上看astro,正好有一台播映着《早熟》,是房祖名与薛海琪主演的。从电影的一半开始看起,说着两小无猜如何面对社会父母的压力,离家出走,然后再吃苦的生活当中体会到父母当年的含辛茹苦。人总要亲自经历了一些事情方能真正的成长。看到后面后面,让我哭得稀哩哇啦的,好感动耶,好一部富有教育性的写实电影呀!想起张栋梁唱得 《爸爸妈妈》:“生活的压力真大 爸爸妈妈多苦也撑起了一个家 。” 真的要好好报答父母恩啊!

今天终于回UCSI去了,见了Mr. Tan,和他开心地谈了许久的天。好笑的是我们竟然谈到很多关于“爱情”的事。以前我遇到比较不熟的朋友,内心都会比较害怕和紧张,怕不懂得和别人了什么,也不懂别人怎样看自己。可是噢,现在的自己好像不会了,虽然事前会有一点点这样想,但是,内心多了一份踏实的力量,让我可以从容地,以自己去面对他人。^^ 噢对了,Mr tan 给了我好多免费的爱情advice,他大概是担心我嫁不出去吧。哈哈。但是,无可否认的,看过太多婚姻的不完美,对婚姻失去信心的我,大概也真的很难吧!除非。。奇迹会出现。哈哈。我是等待的,只是我期盼的有时真的太完美了。

然后也见到了buddY的旧朋友,也认识了BuddY 的新朋友!Chiew rui超搞笑的,他变得好年轻,好容光焕发了!现在的JUNIOR,个个都好善良,也不会对像我酱的陌生人感到羞怯,他们真的好可爱哦。只是感觉上他们还未对佛法产生坚定不移地信心,愿善良的他们能够持着学佛的心,细水长流,正如当初学长们如何看着我们成长一样。

然后,一知道在ucsi八月将有一日静坐班是由继程发师带领,我真的又惊喜,有兴奋得快要傻了!还问了几次家祥是继程法师吗,是他吗??因为这实在太不敢相信了!一直以为继程法师都主持在太平佛学会里,真的没有想到他会到这儿来!趁此能够与法师结缘,真的很高兴啊!

好希望在临走之前,能够上《成佛之道》营,以完成三乘共法章和五乘共法章的内容。这是我小小的心愿,不知道因缘能具足吗?只能随缘了。

Monday, June 21, 2010

That Day, I kissed my dad.

Happy Father's Day!
It was Sunday this year's Father's Day lies on. I have no present to give to him, but I thought it would be great if I can give him a surprise by a simple hug and kiss. I have attempted to do so since I woke up but since dad looked so stern all the time, it's kinda awkward to approach him suddenly and he might treated it as an "attack". hahaha. I was trying to find some chances. After coming back from breakfast, I knew that my dad was going out to work in the afternoon. Hmmm, that might be a great opportunity for me to surprise him before he went out!! So when he was tidying his stuffs and was about to go out, I pretend to speak to my mom and pretend to be around, sitting on the sofa, tidying my books, waiting for the right time to come. Heart is beating fast. At last, he picked up his shirt, wore it on and turned around to take his wallet. I quickly woke up from the sofa and caught him, hugged him from the side and two kisses on his cheeks, wishing him Happy Father's Day and may him drive safely.

He cracked jokes on me after that! I am happy and he is happy. So nice. Then when I stepped into the kitchen and my mom seemed to witness everything, I hugged and kissed her too, before she manage to say, " Why is that only for daddy!?"  haha. That night, my dad looked less stern and he talked a bit more to me. Isn't that lovely? Although the action has passed but the energy of the action returned to I and my dad and it will be stored in our memories and affecting us since ever. That's the power of karma.

Many times, when we try to do sth that we are unfamiliar with, there is always mental struggles which i shall call it "pre-mental syndrome" whatsoever..haha..What i meant is, there're always whispers around my head which makes me struggle between doing it or not. e.g. The idea of suprising my dad, my egoness arises and will say," Don't do it. It is so paiseh lah. Forget about it lah." Or maybe I'll hear, "Haha, so funny! You'll be laughed for doing so. Pointless." But when I find the strength to turn of the button of those whisperers, and clear in mind that, this is a good act. And I just wanna show my dad how much I love him. And if i don't do this, I'll be thinking about it or regretting it for the whole day. Then just do it. haha. All of us got overwhelmed joy by overcoming my egoness and not to be fooled by it. So, just do it when you believe it is something right to do. Don't be fooled and controlled by negative thoughts. It's not the thing that is so hard it's the whisperers that is hard to be overcome.

Although he may not be a perfect dad. But I will remember the promise of unconditional love. Complaining does not make a change but one positive thought makes a change.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

适应

很轻易地,我的不满又升起了。尤其是当妈妈说“多么体谅我的事”。叛逆的心一起,我便会开始顶嘴。
可是,回头一想,啊,难道没有比这更好的吗。不应该让妈妈觉得不好受呀。于是便有一丝丝的忏悔心了。我是不是比从前进步了一点点?哈哈。
要真正地做到孝顺父母,从他们的所需出发,尤其是关系自己的事,真的不容易啊。我常常觉得自己想要的自由比别人少了一些些,要懂得体面的东西多了一些些。
为什么我是个独生女?
更甚的是,为什么我是个女孩?
我常常这样怀疑自己。
看来,我虽然已经二十个年头了,却还未接受作为一个独生女的事实。
事实真的有那么糟吗,还是我把它想得过度地糟了。
无论如何,经验告诉我,埋怨与排斥是没有用的,它们只会蒙蔽我的双眼,让我失去理性。
也许我还需要多些时间来适应,来接受这不二的现实。
我需要多多地扫尘除垢,扫走心中的不满与欲望。
我要擦亮我的双眼,看看这美好的世界。
没那么糟的啦。

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

回家

啊~~终于回家了!出外游学,让我更加体会到家的温暖,家的重要。
已经是几天了,初次出外回来,看见自己的房间,是熟悉中带点不一样的感觉。面对这里的人事物,也逐渐明显地觉得自己的心境和处事的态度不一样了。这是一种微妙的转变,感觉上自己像是更“清醒”地察觉身边的变化。

昨日和朋友出去夜归,被父母亲讲了一下。那一晚,心情是十分复杂的,是含着叛逆的心,理智的思考,是不忿自己的委屈,是想感恩父母的爱,是无奈社会的治安,是痛心父母的过分担忧,是嗔心与悲心的交织。我选择不再压抑自己的情绪,就让泪珠如滂沱的大雨落下,希望自己的情绪也随着风干的泪珠散去。此时,我也看见了自己的执著,向来叛逆的自己总是习惯挑战父母心中的尺度,争取该有的自由。但是,我已经长大了,我需要的不再是自己自私的所需,我更应该撇开心中那叛逆的小孩,看看自己如何能尽自力真正敬养父母。


可我必须承认,在家里,心情的起伏比较大,也非常容易受到最亲近的父母的言行举止所影响。然而父母的情绪也是常常上上下下的,尤其是父亲的脾性,常会让我感到无所适从。从以前的害怕,到憎厌,以及相隔一年后受到一丝丝影响的美好心情,我好像开始晓得,有时候我也要学会disconnect from我的父母,学会保护自己内心的宁静。而且这是社会的趋势吗?回到家,听见大人们的对话,无不是对国家社会政府天气的埋怨。埋怨好像真的成了一股趋势。保护自己,这不是叫我变得对周遭冷漠,而是让我更有力量把内心的善法传出去。以前的因把我带到了这里,是憎恨与不满改变不了的事实,但是我深信爱心与慈悲是很有力量的法,能让我好好保护自己的心,再看因缘净化他人的心。这段在家的时间,正是最好的磨炼。愿自己的心日益强壮,自利利他。

=)

Friday, June 11, 2010

The last night in Cotswold.

It is the last night in Cotswold. Although the whole building was just left with me now, I've still survived through the few days of solitude.

Tomorrow, will be a journey back to my home. The home which shines out of my heart. A place I can regain my manja-ness and enjoy the love and caring of my family and relatives. However, it is a weird saddening kind of feeling to think about going home. It's weird, isn't it? I felt somehow home sick when the days to get back are nearer. The feeling arises when I come to think of the lovely summer in home will only last for three months. And then, there will be another 9 months of long eager waiting for the next reunion. But this is my choice. When you gain something, you'll definitely lose some. There's surely some precious moments about my family and friends which I won't be able to join in. The absence of me in the subsequent repeated nine months of studying abroad in the future four years. Nah, I was being a bit too into my feeling when I thought of this.

When you ask me what is the biggest thing that I learn from studying abroad and travelling around? Perhaps I would say it's about learning how to appreciate and how to let go. I appreciate for being able to be at home when I have experienced the tiredness and hastiness of travelling; Within a year, from travelling to moving to a new house, it teaches me more about experiencing the impermanence of life. The environment around me is always changing; The relationships and things are always changing; There are, until I find till the very end, nothing for me to clutch on during your journey of life. No matter how nice the accommodation is, there is always a time for me to say goodbye. For the time being, I have to farewell to the Cotswold building; After 4 years, it will be UK; And then, when I am as old as an old women, I have to be prepared to farewell to my life. More than this, I should be prepared for not able to say goodbye anytime which I don't know when the death suddenly knocks on my door.

Because of the experience of impermanence, here comes the appreciation of every moment. Because the summer at home is so short, just like when you realise that life is never too long, I want to try my best to please everyone I met when I am back. To be more obedient as a daughter and grandchild, to be more truthful and selfless as a friend. To leave more happy memories behind when you're with a person, to hope to give them a smile instead of any other unpleasant feelings. You'll start to forgive about the imperfection of them and focus on the kindness and joy of life. If I were never have the chance to study abroad, I would have treated everything around me as usual and was thought to live the life in a dull way. It's not the life which is dull, it's me who didn't see the beauty of it until I experience the partial absence of it.

Besides of appreciation, I've also learn a bit about letting go. When life goes on smoothly and easily, we tend to grab some materials to be part of our memories or souvenirs. If you're a real traveller,You'll bring nothing back. Because, too much of things and memories and burden makes your journey harder. The step will be getting smaller and smaller until you're forced to stand still at a point, and decide to throw away some of the stories and keep only the most delicate ones. When we're moving stuffs to new house, isn't it so hard to bring all the stuffs along? The more you grab, the more troubles you've got too. The time I was packing, I realised I didn't really use most of the stuffs that I kept nicely in my drawer. They're just being pulled out occasionally, eg the time when you're moving stuffs. What a person needs in a day is actually very little, but the amount a person wants to bring along can be dreadful. Be simple; I can bring stuffs to a new house, but I can't bring anything that I own now to a new life.

Later when I wake up, I'll be leaving this place very soon.  悄悄的我走了,正如我悄悄地来。That's all I wish to do now. =)